I have a confession to make: There was a time when I wanted to look like Kate Moss (I know, I know…hear me out, will ya?) SO badly.
I was 15 years old.
It’s not that I wanted to be skinny….I just wanted to feel light and free in my own skin. Free of the rolls, pooches, bat wings, a muffin top and double chin I was quickly developing.
She looked pretty much the way I wanted to feel.
At the time, I felt like I had the weight of the world on my body, which was rapidly growing sideways thanks to my constant bingeing.
Was my desire realistic? No. Was it healthy? Not really, because no matter how hard I tried, I knew that I would never look like her. But did it motivate me to start making changes? Yes, although I was very aware of my reality and limitations.
And then I started working out and I discovered muscle—the stuff that gave me definition, beautiful striations and volume in just the right places.
Looking and feeling balanced and well-proportioned was all good, but I also wanted to feel strong and capable enough to handle physical and mental challenges that came my way.
When I graduated from body weight training to heavier lifting by taking up CrossFit classes, my idea of the perfect body changed, yet again.
But more recently, it dawned on me: While I was busy dreaming about looking like someone else, there was someone out there who wished she had my body.
While I was running one day, a woman who was heading in my direction stopped in her tracks, threw her hands up and yelled at me: “But you’re already skinny!”.
In another instance, someone who was jogging behind me said “Gosh, you’ve got such a nice, perky butt!”.
So instead aspiring to look like someone else, I changed my perspective of what beautiful means.
I also came up with a new dream body goal: To look and feel like MY best, not someone else’s.
To me, this specifically means:
- Having lean and well-defined legs, abs, arms, shoulders and back (I want to focus my attention on what and who’s around me, not what I look like in my shorts, skinny jeans or whatever else I’m wearing—one of my Heavyweight Goals! Sign up for my free Lose 4 Pounds in 4 Weeks Without Going On A Diet course if you want to find out what yours is. Send me an email if you’re already on my mailing list but don’t have access to the course).
- Getting physically stronger from month to month, by being consistent with my balanced diet and workouts.
- Feeling more confident and capable of lifting heavier loads by gradually inching out of my comfort zone. If a weight or workout feels too easy, it’s time to move on to something more challenging.
- Improving my flexibility by making a conscious effort to stretch every other day (this is one area most people forget about or actively neglect because the benefits aren’t immediately obvious or tangible).
- Looking better and feeling more confident in photos (I used to hate having my photo taken, and it still isn’t my favorite thing in the world, but I’m getting better at this one).
- Feeling great about taking control of the things that I CAN control, like what I eat and moving with purpose.
I have to tell you, I’m not perfect: I’m still a work-in-progress. My motivation dips and my diet goes haywire now and then. When that happens, I take a week or so to re-group and re-define what’s important to me before re-starting the ignition.
But my dream body goal is now crystal clear, and I know that it’s within reach.
Here’s my challenge to you for this week: What does YOUR dream body look like?
- How would your life be different if you woke up one day, and realized that you had it?
- How would you feel?
- How has your idea of the perfect body changed over the years?
- Is there a celebrity of personality that embodies your dream body?
Shoot me an email or leave your answer in the comment section of this post (click on the post title above to get there). I’d love to know!
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